You can only get told "no" so many times. Having submitted my novel to numerous agents and publishers over the years, I've heard my shares of "No". Being in Sales, I've heard it even more. What separates the successful from the unsuccessful, in my opinion, is what I call The Push Back. Some people take no for an answer and go on with their merry lives.
Then there are those that push back.
I'm proud to be one of those people. Don't get me wrong, I'm not Joe Pesci, or the one that fights over every little thing. I've laid down my share of times. With my writing, however, I refused to take "no" for an answer. It's too important to me, something I've groomed and cultivated since I was six. They might say, "No", but to me they're saying, "Take it for what it's worth, continue to improve, and move on." Every "No" is a mere roadblock that I face the challenge of pushing past. So what if I got a few dozen rejections. So what if my Kickstarter hasn't gone as well as planned. That merely means I may have to do it on my own.
I've only been on this earth for twenty-nine years, but there's one very important thing that I learned early on: The only thing stopping us is ourselves. We decide when to throw in the towel, no one can do that for us. The benefits to The Push Back are beautiful if we respect the process and power through.
Remember that show "Family Matters"? Steve Urkel is probably one of the most annoying characters in tv history. Every episode was some new hair-brained scheme to get with Laura Winslow. Steve was very intelligent. In fact, we pretty much expected that he would go on to become some huge scientist and he did. However, we never expected him to get the girl. In the end, though, Mr. Urkel emerged victorious. "Hey Laura, got any cheese?" became "Hey Laura, will you marry me?" Laura said yes.
The Push Back.