Chance of a Lifetime Doesn't Exist

I love putting characters in tough situations, situations where they are forced to make a choice. Living beings, by nature, react differently to choices. You learn a lot about someone just by the choices they make. For instance, one of the characters in my second novel Spark has chosen to marry someone wealthy, not because she is in love but rather it's the only way to make up for her poor standing in society. This choice shows that she's not only lost hope in a chance for a better world, but she's lost hope in herself as well.

I had to make a tough choice in my own life recently. A choice where I had to not only determine my self-worth, but how much of a risk-taker I was as well. Only time will tell whether or not I walked the right path, but it got me thinking about common myths of decision-making:

1. If You Make the Wrong Choice, You're Screwed For Good. If you've lived for a few years, let's face it, you've made some pretty dumb decisions. This comes back to bite us later because we tend to overthink things that should be simple. Bad choices don't mean the end-all-be-all. I'm sure you've been in a situation where you've made a good thing out of something that might've started out pretty bad. This myth also debunks the whole "Chance of a Lifetime" theory. If you only got one shot at something good, there'd be no point in living out the rest of your life. Another chance will come around.

2. The Right Choice Shouldn't Involve Any Trepidation or Worry. Very common misconception. If you're making a life-decision or a choice that's extremely risky, that should worry you. Even after your decision, you might second-guess yourself a bit. However, that doesn't mean the situation is not necessarily a good one.

3. If You Can't Make a Tough Decision On Your Own, You're Not a Good Decision-Maker. A great leader or thinker doesn't merely rely on his own thoughts, but seeks the counsel of others. It's always good to get another perspective, especially from those that have been there before.

4. The First Option That Presents itself is Seldom the Right One. While it's true that you want to weigh all of your options, sometimes Option #1 turns out to be the best viable choice for your future. In fact, in a lot of cases, you'll find that there's a reason that particular choice showed up first.

5. In a Good Decision, It's All About the Pros. The cons can be absolute deal-breakers, even if it's just one. Exhibit A: I get a job offer to be an assassin. The Pros: 1. I'll get boatloads of money. Untaxed money at that. 2. I will get to travel the world or at least the country. 3. I'll get to see a lot of cool things most people won't get to see. 4. I'll get to use a bunch of cool gadgets. 5. I would be above the law. I would be the law. Cons: 1. I have to kill people. Wait, what? One bad thing can ruin everything that's good.

I've made plenty of bad decisions in my life, some good ones too. One of my better decisions was deciding to share my work Legacy: G.L.O.W. with the world. Thanks so much for being a fan. I'm honored.